Meeting People Is Easy

“Meeting people is easy”.

I remember the first time I heard that phrase. I don’t really know how old I was, though if I do the math I was probably around 13.

I remember hearing that phrase and having an instant emotional connection to it. At the time, I don’t think I quite understood the depths in which it affected me, but as the years have gone by and I’ve grown older, moved cities and traveled countries, I am reminded how rooted that phrase is for me.

I think that when I’m stuck in the monotony of my day to day life, the phrase tends to slip away from the front of my mind. I get tied up in my routine, my neighborhood, my regular waterholes with my regular friends and there isn’t much of a challenge to “get along”.

It’s when I travel that I am hit the hardest by the true weight of what those words mean to me.

You see, as long as I can remember I have known someone who doesn’t have it as easy as me. I may not have known the words at the time (anxiety, depression, antisocial, loner, etc…) , but I recognized who those people were around me, and I always wanted to comfort them.

Maybe if I raise myself in the middle of the bully and them then the bully will lash out on me and leave them alone.

Maybe if I sit next to them at recess and tell them I don’t want to play tag either then they will feel less alone.

Maybe if I walk home from school with them they won’t feel so afraid.

I’ve been that person for as long as I can remember, and I’m sure my family could tell you countless more stories about me doing similar acts at an age that I was too young to even remember myself doing it.

The truth is, I have never found it difficult to talk to people. I have never been afraid to hold a conversation with a stranger no matter how kind or unkind that person appears to be.

Sure, sometimes in conversations people disagree with me. Perhaps they see a situation in a different way than I do and that’s fine, everyone has the right to see a situation though the lenses of their own reality, but in the end, I have still never had a problem meeting people.

I come up with this subject today because I literally just had one of the best weekends of my life with someone I met while sitting at a pool bar a few weeks ago, and if it weren’t for me being exactly who I am, and them being exactly who they are, we would have never met.

In the eyes of our “societies”, we shouldn’t have met.

Now, before anyone starts getting all hyped up about how its 2019 and people are mingling all over the world and nobody should let society dictate what they do in life, hear me out.

Before being offered the opportunity to come to the Middle East, I never ever ever would have even considered it being a destination for me. In my ignorance I thought that all of the Middle East was a war zone.

Before I formed that ignorant opinion, which was likely because of the wars that started after 9/11, I never really gave much thought to the Middle East at all.

I always knew that different parts of the world had different ways of life, and I have always been drawn to the idea of traveling as much of the world as I can, but I really just never saw myself here.

Anyway, back to my story:

I met this guy and he had a very deep voice that captivated my attention, so I listened carefully to his words.

We talked for about an hour or so and shared another round of drinks before he had to head out. We exchanged numbers and went our separate ways.

We stayed in touch and thru our chatting I discovered more about him and his background. I quickly learned that he comes from a very deeply rooted traditional Arabic family. That he wears a Kandura during his regular day to day, and even though he’s 36, he doesn’t tell his family that he drinks and likes the occasional wild party.

We chatted often about the Arabic culture and where I should travel to and things I should do here in the UAE. We chatted about places I want to go and where he has gone and he offered to link me with friends he has in so many different countries around the world.

Then, this past week, he said he would come down to Abu Dhabi for two nights to hang out with me.

The weekend was great! Montecristos, scotch, Shisha, pools, beach, sunshine, dancing and good food. We got along so well you would have thought we’d have known each other forever! And yet, we never should have met.

If he were to have followed his strict family tradition, he would have never been at the bar we met at in the first place.

If I would have listened to the concerns of so many of my family and friends or continued to think that the Middle East was entirely war stricken, I would have declined the opportunity to be in the UAE and I wouldn’t have been their either.

And yet, we met and became instant friends.

Yes, I have met some real pricks in my day, and I promise you that not everyone has kind words to say in describing me, but in the big picture, out of the hundreds of people we cross paths with each day, most people are good people, across the whole globe, and meeting people is easy.

Be well. Be happy.

Day two – Al Ain, UAE

I woke up on Friday the 19th of July with a loose itinerary planned; Then, I realized it was Friday.

There are a lot of things different here in the Middle East compared to where I grew up in the USA, and one big one is workdays vs weekends. Growing up, the standard work week and school week is Monday thru Friday and the weekend is Saturday and Sunday. Even still, on Saturday’s and Sunday’s most businesses are open.

Here, in the UAE, the work day is Sunday thru Thursday and the weekend is Friday and Saturday, and almost EVERYTHING is either closed or opens late (after 3pm) on Friday’s.

So, I jumped online and double checked my original plan to see if the places I wanted to go would even be open in the morning, and they were not. I reworked my itinerary to make the most of the day by adding in the two places Edgar, the man from the car rental company, told me about. I looked up the locations, wrote down a few basic directions, and headed out the door.

First recommended stop: Jabel Hafeet Mountain.

Jabel Hafeet Mountain is the sole mountain in the Emirate of Abu Dhabi, and one of the highest in the country. From the apartment I rented, Jabel Hafeet Mountain was about a 18- 20 minute drive to the base, and the drive up the mountain was about another 10-15 minutes. The drive to the top was absolutely beautiful, so I stopped a few times along the way to take a photos.

A Mosque sitting at the base of the beginning of the mountain on the drive to Jabel Hafeet

Jabel Hafeet Mountain Road was built in 1980 and extends for 11.7 km (7.3 mi) up the mountain, rising 1,200 m (3,900 ft). With 60 turns and three lanes (two climbing and one descending), the road has been called the greatest driving road in the world by Edmunds.com. The road scales the mountain and ends at a parking lot with a hotel and a palace belonging to the country’s rulers.

1/2 or so of the way up Jabel Hafeet looking North towards

Jabel Hafeet Mountain top Palace Estates

Desert view from the top of Jabel Hafeet Mountain

View of Mubazzarah Park from about 2/3rd of the way down Jabel Hafeet Mountain

On my way down the mountain I made a few more stops before pulling into Green Mubazzarah which is an oasis park at the base of the mountain.

My sweet little ride that made this entire trip possible, a Ford Figo

Second recommended stop: Green Mubazzarah.

Green Mubazzarah is a desert oasis at the base of Jabel Hafeet where water from deep underground bubbles up creating Mubazzarah Hot Springs. I’m sure this is a highly visited location in cooler months, but here in the middle of the Afternoon in July with 114 degree Fahrenheit weather, there wasn’t a soul in the hot spring and very few people admiring the park at all.

The park is huge, and the entrance to the park is free. I drove all around visiting the hot springs, the local BBQing area, the pond, the historical Mubazzarah Dam, the children’s playground, the “his” and “hers” swimming pools (20 Dirham to swim for one hour, no towel rental), and spent quite some time sitting on a park bench looking at the beautiful scenery with a bag of mixed nuts just wasting the day away.

Green Mubazzarah children’s playground (one of several)

After all, it was now only about 10am on Friday and none of the museums I wanted to go to opened until 3pm.

Before leaving Green Mubazzarah I pulled up to one of many water sources to fill up my water bottle. I carry with me a ‘Purewell Filter Water Bottle, BPA Free, with 4-Stage Intergrated Filter Straw’, so I can get water from anywhere and by the time it hits my lips, it’s safe to drink. This is perfect for camping, hiking and traveling as well as great for day to day use. If you’re interested, you can find one here: https://www.amazon.com/Purewell-Bottles-Integrated-Backpacking-Emergency/dp/B07JLS7VF2

When I walked up to the water source I noticed a swarm of thirsty bees hovering. Because of the heat, I took the risk.. as far as I know, I don’t have any allergies to bee stings, so I went for it.

The water was not cold, but it was much cooler than the air outside so every last sip was delightful!! I filled up my bottle a second time, and hit the road.

Before exiting the park I stopped at the “Waha Al Mubazara Cafeteria” which was really more like a convenient store with mostly just soda, chips and ice cream. I grabbed a small bag of trail mix and walked back out to my car. No sooner did I get into my car a white SUV driven by an Emirate man pulled up (I knew he was a local because he was wearing a Kandura), and he honked his horn about three times. The man from inside the “Cafeteria” came out to his window, took his request, went back inside, and then came back out with the items the man asked for. I was more than surprised to see this happen! In this kinda heat, that is some serious service!!

I drove out of the park and headed to Al Ain Oasis. Al Ain Oasis is one of several oasis’ in the region. This oasis garden embodies a three-tiered agriculture, characterized by ground crops, orchards and Palm groves. This system is vital for the self-sufficiency of the community and for the creation of the ecological micro-climate of the oasis. Despite the heat I opted to walk instead of rent a bicycle.

Single, double and family bicycles for rent. “Buggies” were also available for 20 Durham if you wanted a driver.

I walked through Palm groves, found the underground flowing water paths, and even stopped for an ice cold bottle of water.

One small opening of the natural water flow though Al Ain Oasis

Walls and camera phone timers are your friend when you’re traveling solo!

As I slowly gave myself a self guided tour, I was greeted by one of the five prayer calls of the day. I followed the sounds of the prayer and discovered upon a mosque. Outside the mosque were the hundreds of pairs of shoes piled up belonging to all the men inside. I stopped to observe the ritual before turning my way back toward where I had come from to go sit in my car and escape the heat.

One of several mosques within the walls of Al Ain Oasis during prayer time

While walking out of the Oasis, a car (only locals can drive their cars on the property because there are still families that own homes within it’s walls) pulled up and the man driving the car rolled own his window to talk to me. He was wearing a perfect crisp Kandura (this has become a very attractive quality to me in my 30+ days living in this region) despite the dust of the wind blowing though the Oasis. He asked me if I had seen the water and if I knew where I was going. He told me his mother still lives within the Oasis and offered to show me around. His energy was warm and welcoming, and given different circumstances, I likely would have jumped in his vehicle and gone for the adventure, but I was soaked in my own sweat and feeling pretty hungry, so I declined his offer and in the back of my mind wished I might run into him again before I leave..spoiler… I never did.

I got back to my car and began to head toward Al Ain Palace Museum, but I still had some time to waste before it opened, so I stopped at a huge mall I was driving past. It was called Remal Mall. It was absolutely beautiful inside although most stores were closed. I spoke to a few people who were working in stores that were open, and gathered that the mall was still relatively new so not all the stores were fully moved in yet, but also… it’s Friday. I went to the food court which was located on the 4th floor and there were only three places open to choose from. I opted for the local Arabic spot and housed myself another Chicken Shawarma. This one came with a coke and cost $8 Durham. It was different than the one I got at Volcano in Jimi Mall, although it was also absolutely delicious!

Just after 3pm I headed to Al Ain Palace Museum. When I arrived there the sky was beginning to turn a heavy grey in the distance, and the air smelled like it might rain. I didn’t want to get too excited, but I grabbed a hold of my crystal and wished for rain; rejuvenation.

Al Ain Palace was one of the residences of the late Sheikh Zayed bin Sultan Al Nahyan, the Founding Father and first President of the United Arab Emirates. He lived there with his family until 1966 when he moved to Abu Dhabi as the new ruler of the emirate. Al Ain Palace dates back to 1937 and was built in the traditional architectural style of Al Ain. Walking around the museum gave me an amazing glimpse into what life may have been like for the late Sheikh and his family.

*Swimming pool at Al Ain Palace museum. There is a canal that runs along the back side of the property and opens into an identical pool on the other side.*

A model of the Land Rover in which Sheikh Zayed bin Sultan Al Nayan used to tour the region to visit the citizens.

One of several reception rooms (majalis) within the Palace grounds

Sheikh Zayed and his wife’s bedroom within Al Ain Palace Museum

A child’s crib hanging in Al Ain Palace Museum

Sheikh Zayed bin Sultan Al Nahyan’s own words… What you believe about the Middle East might not be accurate

As I continued to tour the massive grounds the wind picked up and the sand began to whip around hitting my skin like little needles. I decided to have a seat under a large traditional tent set up within the main courtyard and wait out he storm.

After the rain it was time to head to my last destination of the day, Oasr Al Muwaiji.

That quick thunderstorm made my little Ford Figo filthy!!

Qasr Al Muwaiji is a significant and authentic historic earthen building that bears witness to four generations of the ruling Al Nahyan family. From 1946 to around 1960 it was the home and diwan of Sheikh Zayed bin Sultan Al Nahyan and it is the birthplace of the present ruler of Abu Dhabi and the President of the UAE, His Highness Sheikh Khalifa bin Zayed Al Nahyan.

By the time I arrived at Qasr Al Muwaiji it was just past 5pm and I had been walking in the heat most of the day. I was extremely grateful to discover that this museum is mostly all indoors and air conditioned!! I read though the history of this magical fort and took a self guided tour though the current President of the UAE’s birthplace.

Exhausted from the day, but determined to enjoy one last historical place in Al Ain for the day.

Main reception room on the third floor of Qasr Al Muwaiji- A place to entertain and catch up with loved ones

Taking some time to relax in Qasr Al Muwaiji after a long day in the heat

Just before closing time I finished up my visit to Qasr Al Muwaiji. It was nearly 7 pm and I was exhausted. I debated stopping by a hotel to have a drink before heading back to the apartment, but opted to just go straight back, eat a crappy version of a cup-of-noodle that I knew was on the coffee table, and call it a night.

My next day’s adventure was the big finale…my attempt to cross the Oman border for a fresh stamp in my passport!

Be well. Be happy.

Day One- Al Ain, UAE

I woke up on Thursday the 18th and began to pack a few things I thought would be necessary for my trip. I knew the basics (towel, shower gel, shampoo) were taken care of through my Airbnb accommodation, so I just focused on what clothes I would be most comfortable walking around the extreme desert heat in while also simultaneously being completely covered, and a few basic snacks.

I said goodbye to the kids ad their nanny and walked down the stairs to catch a taxi to the Crown Royal Plaza Hotel on Yas Island where I had booked my rental car. I met Edgar and gave him all the identification he had asked me to bring. Because I do not have a local UAE phone number, I also gave him the name and phone number of my brother. He looked at the name, then looked at me and back down at the name.

“You’re Mr. Andy’s sister?”, he asked me.

“Yes, we have different surnames, but share the same mother.”, I responded.

“Oh, well what did we quote you per day for the car?” he asked.

“178.60 Dirham per day, sir”, I responded.

“Well, I’ll give you a ‘friends and family’ discount for this trip since you’re Mr. Andy’s sister. I’ll give you the car for 157.59 Dirham per day.”

Sweet!! We’re off to a good start already!

Edgar finished up the rental agreement and gave me all the details about the process of crossing the Oman boarder (which we planned for the 20th) He told me what fees to expect and then gave me two recommendations of places to see while I’m there.

“Green Park, it’s called Mubazzarah Park, and Jabel Hafeet Mountain! Make sure you check those places out!” he told me.

I told him I would and then walked outside to inspect the car and begin my journey.

As I drove away from the city of Abu Dhabi and into the desert I saw vast desert. White sand as far as the eye could see. There was hardly any traffic at all and the speed limit hovered from 120km/h to 160km/h. I toggled around with the radio and found plenty of local radio stations that gave me the authentic feel of driving though the middle east. As I got closer to the city of Al Ain, the ground began to change dramatically. What was once vast flat lands of white sand were now a redish brown sand that the wind had formed into several unique sand dunes.

I arrived to Al Ain around noon and since my check-in at my Airbnb wasn’t until 2pm, I decided to go straight to Al Jahili Fort and begin to site see. I parked near a Starbucks Coffee Shop along the border of the Central District Park, went inside for a restroom break and an iced latte, and then walked through the park toward Al Jahili Fort. I knew it was on the premises and figured it wouldn’t be too hard to miss considering everything I had read about it’s massive size.

The park was beautiful. The grass was well maintained and there were several beautiful water fountains to admire during my walk.

Then I saw the fort standing taller than the date palms and trees that surrounded me, and I walked towards it.

Al Jahili Fort was amazing! It’s one of the largest traditional forts in Al Ain. The different elements of its ancient mudbrick fortification provides a strong physical and visual link to important local and regional events in both the nineteeth and twentieth centuries.

Al Jahili Fort is of special significance because it is strongly associated with Sheikh Zayed bin Khalifa, also known as Zayed the First, who ruled from 1855 to 1909. The construction of Al Jahili Fort itself is dated to have began in 1891 and completed in 1898. It’s date of completion, 1316 AH, (1898 CE) was inscribed on a wooden panel at the enterance of the fort, which displays the following two verses:

A door of goodness opens in this glorious chapter, Where joy and happiness reside.

The blessings of honour said, ‘Mark this house, A house of high standing built by Zayed bin Khalifa.

The oldest parts of the fort are the multi-tiered round tower and the old fort. These were constructed in size and layout for it’s defensive features. The courtyard and interior walls are dated to have come shortly after and were used to gather people and livestock during raids.

The entire fort was open for exploration, and I was the only person walking around the grounds admiring it. There was also an air conditioned exhibit within the fort that tells the story of Mubarak Bin London (birth name Wilfred Thesiger). This is a permanent exhibition that highlights the story of British explorer Wilfred Thesiger, known in the Arabian Peninsula as Mubarak bin London, who enjoyed an international reputation as an explorer, photographer and writer of travel literature.

The exhibition is filled with photographs taken by Mr. Thesiger as well as a 5-10 minute movie clip in which Mr. Thesiger himself discusses the details and experiences of his journey crossing the Empty Quarter to Abu Dhabi from October 1946 to May 1947. While I sat watching the clip I was offered dates and hot tea. It was a pleasant way to close up my visit to Al Jahili Fort.

Around 2 pm I began to walk back to my car to go check into the Airbnb. As I walked toward the car attempting to pull up the directions, my phone was unable to connect to any kind of signal. I popped back into the Starbucks to grab some water and use their Wifi to pull up the driving directions and was on my way to the apartment.

Al Ain is filled with round abouts instead of traffic lights. While I did find this slightly intimidating at first, the controlled chaos was something I acclimated to very quickly and, frankly, think I prefer over the 4 way traffic stops we are so accustomed to in the US.

I checked in with Elena and Victoria, my Airbnb hosts. They gave me my key and we talked for a little while getting to know each other. Elena is from the Philippines and works at the local university, Victoria is from Malaysia and works in real estate. They have been living in Al Ain for 4 years and have still not been to the places I was planning to visit during my stay.

I decided to lay down and relax for awhile. 2 hours of walking around in 46 c weather (114 f) will really take the energy out of you. Around 4pm I decided to get up and hit the Al Jimi Mall. Elena and Victoria told me there was a place there called Volcano that had really good local Arab food.

After a delicious lunch that cost me 5 AED (1.36 USD), I headed south to the Al Ain Zoo.

I arrived just before 5:30 and was told there was a bird show at 6pm. I entered the zoo and hustled towards the bird house to catch the show. I just knew it would be my chance to see some form of Falconry, and I was not left disappointed!! They had several birds of prey showing their hunting skills! Falcons, Eagles, Owls and Vultures!!

After the show I walked around the zoo admiring as many other animals as I could before the zoo closing time of 8pm. As the sun began to set the winds began to start up giving a slight breeze of relief from the days heat. I decided I needed a drink.

A true rarity! The white tiger was so desired for it’s fur that its species was completely poached out of existence. It is currently 100% extinct from the wild and now only a very few survive in Zoo’s around the world.

I could have hung out with this Penguin all day…

One of the worlds most beautiful creatures with an equally stunning background.

I did a quick search and found a Trader Vic’s close by. Considering my desire to feel anything close to home, I decided to head that way for a taste of something familiar. I had two drinks, enjoyed some live music, and then drove back to my Airbnb accommodation.

I showered off the day’s sweat, and drifted immediately off to sleep excited about the next day’s adventures.

Planning my first Visa run in the UAE.

Leaving for my first solo adventure in the Middle East

Our move from Yas Island to Al Reef was smooth and within only a few days we got the apartment cleaned up, furnished the way we want it, got internet set up and running and the place looking and feeling like our family home.

Never underestimate the power of fresh linens!!

Within a few days of settling in, I began to feel an internal nagging that told me I needed to do a little bit more research on my travel visa status here in the UAE. I had talked to people from other countries about the number of days they were allowed to stay in the country before having to go for a Visa run and the general consensus was 30 days, but for some reason I felt that I had read that I had 90 days (Americans tend to be quite privileged in our allowance of time to travel compared to other countries). By the time I actually got around to looking into it, I had four days before my status here would expire! I had done two visa runs in the past when I was living in Mexico, so the process wasn’t new to me; just the location. It was time to buckle down and do some research. Where would I go!?

I consulted with a few friends I’ve made here who have done plenty of these runs themselves, and decided that since I was limited on my planning time, making plane tickets a little too expensive for my budget, that I would instead look into renting a car and going somewhere that is a reasonable driving distance. I had heard about the city of Al Ain, an Oasis in the desert, and I had wanted to check it out, so I figured, now is the best time to make that trip!

Technically Al Ain is on the border of the Emirate of Abu Dhabi and the country of Oman. As I began to look up where to stay in Oman, I was coming up mostly empty handed for anything in the city of Al Ain. There were very few hotels on that side of the border to begin with, and the ones that were there were expensive and would require almost an hours drive to all the places I wanted to see in Al Ain. I decided to change my course of action. I would stay in the city of Al Ain on the UAE side, and cross into the country of Oman for a day trip to get my necessary stamp.

I began the hotel search again. In this search I found beautiful resorts with elaborate pools and high-end bars and night clubs. While it all was quite tempting, my pocketbook wasn’t trying to have a fancy vacation, it was trying to get my passport a fresh stamp to allow me another 30 days in the UAE.

So, I signed up for Airbnb.

Okay okay okay…. I know!! I have heard all the bad things too about how Airbnb is taking over cities and making it harder for locals to find homes in these said cities. I also recall being in Nola and reading int he newspaper that they had just made Airbnb illegal in the French Quarter because it had become such a disturbance to the residents of the neighborhood.

I wasn’t keen on supporting their community and network, but I was getting a little desperate and thought it would be a good idea to at least see what they had to offer.

I signed up, typed in Al Ain and the dates of my travel, July 18-July 20; JACKPOT!

I found a studio style room that had a queen size bed, fridge, microwave, work desk, couch and private bathroom in the center of the city hosted by two women who ONLY host solo female travelers and married couples!! Safe, clean, convenient… and cheap!

The front door of the flat I booked in Al Ain, UAE

I booked it.

Then I called up the car rental to arrange for me to pick up a car. That was an entire process on its own because the country of Oman requires special insurance to drive in their country. When it comes to having a rental car, you also need a letter and the registration of the car and all these documents that require extra steps to show that you are, indeed, allowed to drive that car across the border (apparently the cars GPS systems don’t work once they’re crossed into Oman and there were a number of cars “rented” that were never returned to the UAE so most car rental companies here don’t allow you to cross the border).

After about two hours (research and booking combined), my trip was booked to go to Al Ain and I could now breath a little easier and start creating my itinerary for when I get there.

Crisis averted.

Be well. Be happy.

Almost time to say goodbye to Yas Island..

It’s almost time to move out of the extended stay hotel and into an apartment. The hope is that we will begin to move on Thursday or Friday of this week.

While I’m excited to move, I’m also a little bummed since this extended stay hotel offers breakfast every morning and dinner four nights a week.

In the new place I’ll have to cook all my own food…or perhaps just eat less.

The new apartment is larger than our current accommodation and also has a gym and a pool (actually two). Something the apartment offers that the hotel doesn’t is several grassy areas with jungle gyms and swings and things for the children.

One thing that doesn’t exist in that neighborhood, however; a hotel. No hotel = no bar. So, I will have to get more adventurous and learn a few more bus routes!

In the meantime, I have four or so more days here on Yas Island, so I will do my best to inhale it all in before we depart.

American Independence Day in Abu Dhabi

The extended stay hotel dining area decorations

Right this moment I am sitting in the extended stay hotel dining area. This is the hotel that we have been living out of since our arrival on June 18th.

There is a small American flag as the centerpiece on each table, red, white and blue balloons beautifully displayed around the dining area, and even large glass vases filled with water and dyed for our patriotic pleasure.

The hotel served up hamburgers, french fries and mac and cheese for dinner last night in celebration of America’s independence. They also brought in a popcorn machine just for the night.

This morning, as I came down for breakfast, they had pancakes available; also in celebration of the 4th of July.

To top it all off, shortly after I sat down I was graced with the company of two American Marine’s I have come to know the last few days. Perry, who just arrived two days ago, and David, who has been here one year and is having his going away party tonight (He leaves Saturday night).

I couldn’t help but have a little laugh…. There is nothing quite like sitting with two American Military men eating pancakes to celebrate the 4th of July while in Abu Dhabi.

Also, all awhile the news on the TV’s rattle on about the potentially extremely high shock of the cost of our presidents parade on the tax payer…

Needless to say, Happy 4th of July to all my fellow Americans.

May your celebrations be filled with fun and true reflection.

Be well. Be happy.

Watering my own grass

There is that saying, “The grass is always greener…”. I’ve heard it a million times, and I am sure you have too, but did you ever sit down and think about what that means? Like really think about it….?

In the last year or so I’ve come to realize that the grass is only green where you water it.

I had a similar routine for years; I would spend a few years single and having a great time. I would party without a single care in the world, take spontaneous trips at a last seconds notice, and talk openly about how I loved my freedom and didn’t need anyone else to make me happy. I felt grateful that I didn’t have to report back to anyone or ask permission to do anything at all. If I wanted to stay out all night, I would. If I wanted to stay in all night with a face mask on and a glass of wine, I could do that too.. I could do whatever I wanted, and I loved it!!

And then eventually I’d meet a man I wanted to invest some serious time into and I’d suddenly stop and spend all my time with that man. Before too long I would realize I felt alone and secluded from all the fun, and I would begin to think about the grass all my friends were frolicking in and I’d want that back. So, without warning I’d break another heart and jump back over the fence.

And then the cycle would begin again. This went on for years.

In 2010 I moved to San Francisco after a pretty dramatic break up with a guy I had been dating for several years. When we met he was amazing, but as the years passed by I began to feel completely taken advantage of. He was in a band and his band came before anything else and often required the assistance of my pocketbook. He also was mostly staying with me in my one bedroom apartment but was never contributing to rent, utilities, or groceries. He eventually began making a documentary that circled around a bunch of conspiracy theories and little by little I began to feel unsafe in my own home (He insisted on keeping a loaded shotgun in my home!!! WTF!!). Needless to say, I had to end that and get far away. So I took off to California.

When I began my journey in California I was living on a couch on 18th and Shotwell and googling (literally) “where to make friends in San Francisco”. All signs pointed to a park in the Mission District called Dolores Park, so I set out to find it. After a few days of wandering the city trying to find this park (this was before smart phones), I found it.

The first day I spent at Dolores Park I was wide eyed; observing. I saw people laying on blankets, reading books and magazines, drinking water and beer, listening to music, and even smoking joints (I was not in Pennsylvania anymore, that was for sure!).

So, the next day I went back to the park with a blanket to lay on, some beers to drink, and my journal. I did this nearly every day for about a week when I finally met a group of men who were on a blanket next to me. There were about 7 of them, and then me. They were all highly educated and very friendly and vowed to show me the city. And boy oh boy did they!!!

From using public transportation, to partying in the Castro District, the Mission, the Tenderloin, and Downtown, to every single street festival and drag show we had a BLAST! They showed me love in ways that I had never felt before. They quickly became my San Francisco family and I will forever love each and every one of them. They taught me the importance of watering my own grass, and that is something I’ve been working on ever since.

I have, of course had bumps in the road. Gave some men too much of my time who didn’t deserve it, gave other men too little of my time that did, and through all of those experiences I have learned a lot about myself, and what my grass needs to stay green, yet I never really put myself first to keep it that way. I spent my time having fun and not necessarily nurturing my own soul.

I traveled and worked and traveled and worked until eventually I began to feel that dissatisfaction with my life again. I did what I always have done and began to look for a new place to live. Where would I want to go next? What would it take for me to pick up my life and move it again, now at 33.

And that’s when I was approached with this opportunity to live in Abu Dhabi for 3 months.

The universe has shown herself again!!!! In my moment of need, she showed me a promising path!!!!

So now, here I sit, in Abu Dhabi.

Currently living in an extended stay hotel, life has been wonderful. I’ve been running at the gym nearly every day, eating healthy, drinking tons of water, rotating my time between the beach and the pool, meeting friends and enjoying the occasional scotch or whisky (as opposed to my previous routine of over indulgence).

When I talk to friends from home they all mention that I seem to be ‘beaming’. That my Aura has changed and that I appear to be so happy here.. and it’s true.

I’m watering my own grass.

In 15 days we’ll be moving into our new apartment in a neighborhood of Abu Dhabi called Al Reef. Life will certainly change for me as the feeling of being on ‘vacation’ will surely come to a close, but I hope to take that opportunity to get the house set up, continue on my road to good health, and begin to really explore this city as I will be closer to town and therefore closer to public transportation.

There is a list of places I want to see and things I want to do while I’m here in Abu Dhabi, and its just about time to start exploring those places.

As each day goes on, I remind myself of how important it is to water my own grass. No snarky text message or projections from other peoples personal dissatisfaction can take me down right now. I’m on a cloud of self care and I don’t intend to come down from it anytime soon.

Even if you’re not in a position to check out completely like I have pretty much gotten the chance to do here, please remember how important your own grass is. It needs watering, and even the occasional fertilization (not always the easy part of grass care, but necessary non the less), and of course, gentle touch and lots of love.

Be well. Be happy.

The changes we come to know

My first morning sunrise in Abu Dhabi 19/06/2019

It has officially been one week since landing in Abu Dhabi and starting this new journey of exploration. Since getting here, every day has been hotter than the day before. This is a trend that is expected to continue though the summer, and as of yesterday we finally hit 101.

With this extreme heat, efficiency of appliances is very important here. From the air conditioning to the escalators.

I have spent the last week observing these different machines and am absolutely fascinated every time I notice another little built in efficiency that I hadn’t noticed previously.

The first thing I noticed was the air conditioning.

I remember hot and humid summers as a little girl growing up in Pennsylvania. I remember our house being freezing cold, and then stepping outside into the summer sunshine and it being thick and hot, and then going inside an establishment and being blasted with cold air the minute you walked in (the “cold section” of the grocery store was always the worst!). There was never comfort, just two extremes; hot and cold. I never understood why people kept the temperatures so drastic… but I was a child, so I didn’t have a say in it, so I just had to deal (I had these kinds of feelings a lot as a child…perhaps that is what has made me so “controlling” as an adult).

Here, in Abu Dhabi, it is hot and, believe it or not, insanely HUMID (yeah, I thought the desert would be a dry heat too)!! Because of the intense hot weather here (and, if I’m being honest, probably because of the amount of money this country has), they have several appliances that are much more efficient than anything I ever saw in my travels before. Yes, you walk into a business and it’s cooler inside that business, but it’s not ridiculously cold. In fact, after a few cups of tea, one might even wish it was a tad bit cooler. They also do not have air conditioners blowing on high the second you walk into an establishment the way they do back in the USA. The air is circulated thru the buildings in a way that not once have I even felt my hair blowing in any kind of air conditioned breeze. Indoors is simply a nice, reasonable well circulated temperature.

Also, outside they have air conditioning too! Back home in the USA every time I would sit outside in the summertime at a business they had these giant misters that they would turn on that would keep people cool by keeping them well misted with water. Here, they have a machine that is on wheels to keep it mobile and has a large filter on it to catch the water droplets. So they simply roll it to where they want it, plug it in and pour water into it and voila!! The machine blows out cool air instead of a wet mist because it blows through the filter. Nobody sits soggy.

The washer and dryer in our apartment is also amazingly efficient. First, it’s ONE unit!! One machine that does the washing AND the drying. It’s ideal to me for two reasons; 1. It doesn’t take up a lot of space, so even people with small spaces likely have room for one (back home in Oakland, California I live in a 650 sq. ft studio), and 2. There is a setting on the machine that will put the items into ‘dry’ mode immediately following the ‘wash’ mode, so no soggy mildew smelling clothes if you get distracted during your laundry time! Genius.

The kitchen also has a gadget that I think is awesome!!! It’s a conventional oven that is built into the cabinet (I love when appliances don’t take up counter-top space), and it has a setting that turns the conventional oven into a microwave!!!! Never in my life have I seen a multi-use appliance like this! I have, instead, gone into many homes over the years and noticed how many appliances people have. Usually they have a microwave, a conventional oven and a toaster (the list goes on and on and on when it comes to appliances Americans “must have”) resulting in cluttered counter-tops and/or cabinets. This is a single appliance that can toast your morning bread, heat up last nights dinner leftovers for lunch, and cook a casserole for dinner! It’s awesome!!!

It also really makes me wonder what else can be created that can have multi purpose….

Malls are very popular here in Abu Dhabi. While they do have services for delivery (Uber Eats and Amazon.com to name two that are likely familiar to most of you) like we do in the USA, as well as online shopping available from all major retail stores, their malls are thriving here unlike ours. Back in the USA our malls are now mostly closed store fronts and empty parking lots, but here, its totally different. It is a place to gather, socialize, eat, pray, and shop. They have prayer rooms all over the mall so no matter where someone is, when the clock strikes at a prayer time, they can go.

So here we are, in the middle of the desert, with these giant malls. How is that efficient, you might wonder. Well, here is the thing; The temperature, as I mentioned above, is cool and well circulated. Also there is very little need for artificial lighting because there are so many skylight style openings in the roof that allow the sun to light up the walkways (the lights are on sensors for gloomy days), the escalator even has a sensor on it that (get this!!) slows down to nearly a crawl when it’s not being used, and speeds up when someone is about to walk onto the escalator. I literally sat on a bench and watched this process with pure excitement for way to long…

There are also many other efficient things that they do here in the UAE that I have not seen in my previous experiences, and I will continue to observe and share with you as I can.

For now, It’s 1:30 in the afternoon and I just got back from the gym so I’m going to throw on my swimsuit and walk over to Yas Beach with a friend I met a few days ago. It will be both of our first times vising the beach despite the fact that I have been living here for one week, and they have been living here for ten years!!

Be happy. Be well.

Sarah

The journey begins!

The plane has landed and the journey shall now begin!

Before my departure, many of my friends asked me why I would want to travel to the Middle East. They were likely asking because, like I once thought, they were under the impression that the entire Middle East is a war zone. After I was approached by my brother with the opportunity to live in Abu Dhabi with them for a three month period, I began doing some research. I quickly discovered that not only is Abu Dhabi a young city, it is also a safe city, in fact, the safest city in the Middle East for women.

The trip from D.C. to Abu Dhabi was surprisingly easy considering I was traveling with two adults and their two small children (Ages 22 months and 6 years). We flew Etihad Airways. Our plane was an 787-9 Dreamliner, which was very large and quite comfortable. The customer service was excellent and the on board entertainment was sufficient enough to keep even the antsiest of kids entertained for hours. They also served us three complete meals which were tasty and relatively healthy.

When we arrived at the airport in Abu Dhabi, getting thru customs was the easiest experience ever. 1st, there were no lines, and 2nd, the customs consisted of showing your passport and visa to get stamped, and then getting your photo taken for facial recognition (they have one of the most advanced biometrics systems in the world). That was it! We collected all 10 of our bags from the baggage claim, walked outside to where the taxi’s were, the driver loaded up our bags, and we headed to the hotel.

When we arrived to the hotel it was just about 9pm, and the entire family was exhausted from the long day of travel. All any of us wanted to do was lay down and get some serious sleep. Of course though, once we walked through the hotel doors, we got excited and stimulated all over again.

If you’ve ever been to or looked up anything about the city of Abu Dhabi, you would learn that everything here is elaborate and quite stimulating. This made going straight to bed quite difficult, so my brother and I decided to hit the gym to blow some steam while his wife got settled in to our new hotel home with the kiddos. After the gym we grabbed a snack outside at a neighboring hotel. Beside us sat three women in full hijab’s sitting back and enjoying a hookah.

(I can definitely get back into the hookah while I’m here!)

When we got back to the hotel room, I showered and went to bed excited about what the next few weeks would bring.

I slept with my blinds open, as I often do, so that I can be woken up by the rising of the sun. When I woke up to the sun rise this morning, I felt surprisingly refreshed and ready to start the day. It was just past 6am.

After about an hour I heard my nephew rustling around in the other room, so I opened my door to let him in so he and I could begin to enjoy the morning together. We hung out on the patio until my nephew looked at me and said, “Sarah, can we go back inside? It’s too stinkin’ hot out here” (😆). We then played some games that only a child with his imagination could ever think up, and then decided that since the rest of the family was still sleeping, we would take off to the lobby for breakfast. When we returned to the room the rest of the family was starting to get up and get ready to head out and explore on our first family mission; the grocery store.

We boarded the bus to Yas Mall where the closest supermarket is, and headed off.

Again, the efficiency of this place floored us.

1st outing in Abu Dhabi- Destination, Yas Mall

At current, we’ve all arrived back to the hotel and the kiddos and their momma are taking a much needed nap (surprisingly there were no meltdowns while we were out).

Once they awake, we’re off to the pool!! It’s currently only (yes, only) 95 degrees F outside, so we want to make sure we take advantage of the outdoors while it’s still bearable to do so!

Be Happy. Be Well.

Preparing for flight

In just over 24 hours I’ll be boarding a plane in Washington D.C.. I was lucky enough to get a direct flight from D.C. to Abu Dhabi. The flight itself is just over 13 hours, although with the time zone change, i’ll be boarding at 9:50pm on Tuesday and arriving at 7pm on Wednesday.

I have never been on a plane for more than 5 hours, nor have I ever eaten a complimentary breakfast, lunch, or dinner in flight. I also don’t think I have ever sat still for that long in my entire life.

I bid farewell to the last of my friends from my hometown of Harrisburg, Pennsylvania that I was able to catch up with last night, and will bid farewell to my family in about an hour.

My heart is warm with encouragement and love, and my brain is bursting with anxiety of both excitement and fear.

Cheers to what will surely be one hell of an adventure!!

Be well. Be happy.